We've all been there. We get into an argument with our boyfriend or girlfriend and storm off from each other. But what happens after the fight?
If you are like us, you want to fix what caused the fight in the first place and get back to your happy place with each other. But while one of you might be ready to discuss it, the other might not be. So how do you move forward?
First, give each other space to cool down. This is different for every person and every argument. It could be as short as a few minutes or as long as several hours. Use your best judgement and be alert for what your partner is telling you.
Once you are ready to sit down, try not to get into the same argument again. Stay calm and open minded as you discuss what it was you argued about. It might not be obvious, such as the activity you were doing. It could be something that was said, or even the place you were at. If you are living with others, then make sure this discussion happens privately. You don't want others to insert their opinions into the conversation unless they are invited in.
Do your best to listen to what each other says, and try to think of it from their point of view. If you can manage this, then you should be able to prevent that same argument from happening quite so enthusiastically in the future. We all say dumb stuff at times, but if we know how it affects others, then it makes all the difference in the future.
After you figure out what caused the fight and discussed how to prevent it, spend some quality time with each other. You need to reinforce that special closeness you have with each other. This could be cuddling or enjoying an activity together. Whatever you decide, this is special quality time to be enjoyed together.
Whatever you do, don't give up after an argument. If you are going to throw in the towel on your relationship, it needs to for a lot more than an argument.
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